Flawed like a diamond.

So here we are, day two of the ten minute blog a day phenomenon.

Today I want to write about Queens.
Not the place in New York, or those fabulous ladies of the lipsynch and the enormous eyebrow make up, but real Queens: ladies in charge.

It takes a lot for me to hold my head up high every day. I know I am not alone in this.
It's hard for women to stand up for themselves or put their own wants and needs first. We're told repeatedly not to be selfish or indulgent, not to give in to our incredibly sensual natures. It's in magazines, on television, and splattered all over the internet.

I read an article in Bust the other day (I'll rant about that magazine another time) about Maya Rudolph, who is 39 years old, a mother of three, and was a cast member on saturday night live for about ten years. They were asking her if she gets tired of being asked by journalists about the "new funniness of women", as though this is the first time women have been able to be perceived as both funny and sexy at the same time.

It boggles my mind to realize that so many times we are fed messages like these, that it's okay for women to be funny if they're fat, but if they're pretty it's not fair because they already have the pretty thing going for them. As though women truly are only allowed to have one dimension because having more than one wouldn't leave any for the rest of us?
What about women who aren't funny, or pretty? What does that leave them?
Being smart?
Okay.
What if I'm a regular looking, not funny woman with an average IQ, what's left for me now?

I know I'm using extremes, but I think the point of this blog is just to make the reader, and myself, look around more, think about the messages we receive from our various forms of media rather than just accepting them to be truth.
There are no omniscient narrators in real life. Everyone's writing with an angle, even me, and my angle is that no woman is just one thing. She is a culmination of experiences and perceptions and perspectives, and she should be as multifaceted as a goddamn diamond.